Ending a relationship is never easy.
Probing questions at family gatherings add unwanted pressure, and pre-breakup anxiety can also cause you to reconsider whether your significant other really belongs in your future.
While there is no right or wrong way to end a relationship, there are some guiding principles that can be applied in most situations.
Keep reading to find out!
1. Make sure it is what you want.
A lot of the time, we tend to make impulsive decisions out of sheer anger or fear. It is therefore very important that you take enough time to reflect on your relationship and make an informed (and sober) decision on whether you truly want it to end or not. If it helps, make a bulleted list of the pros and cons of leaving this relationship.
2. Ask yourself questions
Since you’re the one deciding to break up and move on from your partner, it could also help to ask yourself questions to further clarify why you’re making this move. Have you tried everything in your power to make this relationship work? or have you already found yourself involved with someone else? Being sincere in your responses would help you convey a clearer message to your partner when the time comes.
3. Do not assign blame
One of the biggest mistakes you could possibly make is assigning blame during a breakup. Not only could it spark up a really messy argument, but it could also make life after the relationship extremely sour for both parties.
Try to shift the way you phrase issues in the relationship by using “I” instead of “you”. For example, instead of screaming accusations such as “You did this…” “you did that…” “you made me feel…”, try saying “I feel this way …” “I was hurt when …” “I get frustrated by …” By following this simple rule, you could help the other person understand how you are feeling without provoking them to be defensive.
4. Put thought into the location
The place you choose to break up can have a big impact on how your partner feels and reacts. But wherever you decide to call it quits, make sure you respect the other person and consider a private and safe environment.
5. Don’t lie!
It’s normal to try to cushion the blow by sugarcoating your reasoning for breaking up, however, this tactic could do more harm than good in the long run.
Be sure to let all of your true thoughts and feelings out, without sounding disrespectful or condescending. Being honest during a break up provides clarity and peace of mind for both parties involved – two things that would help a great deal when trying to move on.
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