The dating phase of a woman’s life provides for a time of excitement, hope, and ambiguity all mixed together.
There are endless questions that can spin around your head before, during and after a date, but going on one completely unprepared could also ruin a potentially new beginning in your love life.
So, here are a few pointers to ensure your next one is a success!
Be sure you know who you’re going to meet:
Except you’re being set up on a blind date, be sure that your suitor is someone you feel totally comfortable with! Ask a few questions prior to your meeting, so that you can get an idea of who he is, what he does for work and a little more.
Indeed, the date itself is intended to get to know each other better, but it is also imperative to have an idea of what you’re setting yourself up for. Talk on the phone at least once, or communicate briefly through text messages before you meet in person to gauge your level of comfortability. This will make your experience at the date much less nerve-racking.
Leave your phone alone:
In this “social media era”, it is common culture for people to stay glued to their phones, whether in a private place or in public. Keep this disruptive habit at the back of your mind, and remember that your group chat friends and Twitter followers are not invited on the date!
If you become too focused on your phone, you might come off as disrespectful, and this may ultimately impact your date’s perception of you. Even when your cell phone is simply sitting on the table, it could disrupt the relationship development. So put the cell phone away and place all of your focus on the person you’re entertaining.
Don’t overexpose yourself:
In addition to being fully present and engaged in the moment, be sure not to give out too much information about yourself on a date. You are probably meeting this person for the first time, so it is advisable to fuel some mystery by keeping things a little simple. Be careful not to talk too much about the most intimate parts of your life as well; such as family disputes, financial problems, sexual history or immediate future plans.
As time goes by, you may become more comfortable with him/her. But on a first date, only share the important and basic information, such as what you do for work, your birthday, your hobbies etc.
Leave the remaining info for the dates to come, if there’ll be any.
At least, offer to foot the bill:
In this day and age, there seems to be a lot of confusion regarding supposed gender roles and duties. With that being said, it’s best to play it safe by offering to foot the bill after the date, and not just assuming that it is the man’s responsibility to do so. A Chapman University study of 17,000 people emphasized this when researchers found that 64% of men want women to pay more often – but that 76% of men feel guilty about accepting women’s money. Meanwhile, over half of women always offer to pay, but 39% feel upset if that offer gets accepted.
Essentially, there is no “right” answer on who is supposed to cover the costs, so the safest bet is to make an offer and see what happens.
Prepare engaging conversations beforehand:
Nothing makes a date more boring than small talk.
People tend to rate empty compliments and failed attempts at humor poorly, compared to dates who fuel interesting conversation topics that show they are curious, intellectual and cultured.
If you’re the quiet type or have social anxiety, it might help a great deal to prepare some engaging conversations in your head before setting out for your date!
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